... A List
1. Do you think it's really going to snow anytime soon?
2. Will I ever get the energy up to clean the bathroom?
3. What are we going to have for dinner?
4. Do doctors really know what they are talking about or is it a cruel hoax?
5. How long will my filing pile up before I do it?
6. How does David Letterman come up with ten things for each list?
7. What to get David for Christmas and why that one is so hard.
8. How long the rest of my house will stay clean?
9. Does the Christmas tree need water?
10. How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie pop?
11. Why are the things you want the most the ones you don't get to have?
Number 11 would be the main cause of my wondering. I hate to go into overkill about things, but all you women out there who have had difficult times becoming moms... what to you do to keep your sanity while waiting for the biological miracle to take place? When the world around you is filled with expectant mothers who can't keep their breakfast down, how do you "cowboy-up" and get through the day to day? It's my sad little cry for help. Any suggestions?
Just wondering.
Lora, I have a friend-Jill-she has been battling the same thing for years too. She and her hubby adopted Tanner, but she still longs for the chance to carry a child. They have tried invitro multiple times and her sister is in the 2nd or third try of surrogacy Anyway, I know she is part of a "support group" online. I will have to see if I can find out the name of the website if you are interrested. In the meantime, her blog is quirkykirky.blogspot.com
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Thanks Deborah! I'd love to get the sight from you. I think I've finally admitted to myself that this really is driving me insane and almost more than I can handle!
ReplyDelete1. Every day I believe.
ReplyDelete4. Sadly, more often than not, I think they do.
11. I'm so sorry. I know I didn't have this particular problem, but I had others relating to kids and I had a wise bishop tell me to pray to forget about it and then serve others and surround myself with women who uplifted me. It was the most difficult thing I could do when everyone else was having kids and I was in (very tortured) limbo on the issue. But the times I actually remembered to take his advice, I wasn't so crazy. It did help.
Thanks Tawnya! I think that is very wise council. Hard to follow (that whole not thinking about myself thing and actually helping others, what a novel idea!). Thanks for listening.
ReplyDeleteHow many times have I seen people get pregnant as soon as they adopt? So many times I can't even count. As soon as they quit worrying so much it happened.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried standing on your head for 2 hours right after sex? That advice was given to me when I couldn't get pregnant after David.
regarding number 5...you can hire me for the weekends...or just ship it to me and i would be more than happy to do it for you!! i already miss it! and i just wanted to say sorry about the last one...i think about your situation lots and just wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers every night and i even pray for you at work when all that food is so constantly coming up! I know everything will work out because you are one of the most awesomest people I have ever met!
ReplyDeleteI don't know how you keep from going insane. Other than lots of nights of tears, especially during the holidays, and around this area where there seems to be an abudant amount of pregnant women.
ReplyDeleteThe only conclusion I ever came to was Heavenly Father has a different plan for us than we have for ourselves. Accepting that... that is a whole other story. You're always in my prayers.
While I can't shed light on the exact frustrations that you may be experiencing I can relate. I most certainly know that it can be hard to not have what you want especially something that is a righteous desire. It is even harder when deep down in your heart your ache daily for that thing, but have no control over the situation! It is hard to put on a smiling face and say that all is well when it really isn't. But what I have tried to do and what has helped me is to know that I am not in charge of my own life, there is someone who is much greater then I am who is in charge. He has my best interests at heart and will do with my life what it best for me-if I let Him. Even if it means not getting what I want when I want it. And then I try to remind myself that I have a lot of things in my life that show me just that and that He cares about me in my life and I look at those to help ease the pain of the day to day. And sometimes on occasion I just can't stand it and have to have a good cry---but always get back up and keep on keeping on......and with His help I can do just that. We need to get together soon.....I may be coming up after the first of the year and will call you to play! Love you!
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