Friday, May 22, 2009

"Honey, can you answer that?"

K, so I have a confession to make. Really just something to point out that I'm sure most of you already know about but for some reason I feel the need to let you all know that I know that I'm bad at these things.... Like explaining myself for example. You may have to read that last line a few times in order to get my meaning. I know cause I had to already!

I am a horrible communicator over the phone. I would rather text, email, write a letter, sign language, hand puppets, mime... the list goes on, in order to communicate with someone. I suppose there's always the old fashioned method: face to face, but let's not get carried away here. I even go so far as to have distress at email requests because I will respond with clarification questions and fret over whether or not the recipient will get the information in time. I could always pick up a phone and just pass on the information verbally, but that would be all too convenient and we can't have that now can we.

I just don't do well over the phone. In fact the only times I have really good phone conversations are with a) my mother, b) my sister, c) my best friend, or d) my husband. Of course I was only good with my husband while we were dating. That whole can't-be-together-after-certain-hours-because-it's-illegal kind of thing. So you stay up all night talking on the phone because it's the only thing you can do. Then you get married, go to bed at 9 and never look back.

I have often wondered if I have a problem. I have often wondered if I care that I have a problem. I will get stressed out about calling the people I visit teach! I make my husband call and invite people over for dinner, games, whatever. I think I may have some deep-seated fear of rejection and if I can just get it secondhand then at least the blow is softened somewhat. It all seems very silly, but... (if you could see me I would be shrugging right now). I don't mind it when anyone else calls, I'm just usually not the instigator.

So, what does this all mean? I have no idea, but it's kind of interesting right? And now you know why David is always the one that calls and invites you all over for dinner!


  1. Oh, right there with you sister! I hate the phone. I will ALWAYS invite via email. Always.

    So, since we both have this, that means that it's a miracle we've EVER gotten together to do anything. Right?

  2. It's true! but with so many lines of communication at our fingertips it was bound to happen eventually.

  3. I am the exact same way! There are only a couple of people that I can stand talking to on the phone and then with everyone else, I kind of dread it. I always try to make Andrew make the phone calls. It's so bad that I don't answer the phone a lot of the time.

  4. you called me on spawnday!

  5. Ummm...I hadn't noticed before but okay...LOL

  6. I have noticed that David doesn't have the patience to talk on the phone any more, it must be because he is so happily married that he has lost interest. The main thing is.... he calls. That is what matters the most. Even though I love my daughter-in-law like crazy... it makes me nervous to talk to her on the phone.
    Why is that?